Sunday, August 23, 2015

Judging by Appearance

I try very hard not to judge people based on appearance. If there is one thing I've learned so far in ilife, its that looks can be deceiving. I like to hope others try doing the same.

I was in Crown Heights last week for a wedding. Before dressing up for the wedding, I was wearing a polo shirt and slacks. Nothing loud or crazy, a plain Banana Republic polo & grey slacks. Well, some idiot felt the need to contact my father and tell him how disappointed he was with the way I was dressed in CH, and that if I wanted to be able to get a good shidduch I should behave better.

This is my message to that moron: go screw yourself. Never in my life have I changed or done anything to please someone else's standards, and I'm not about to start now.

Let's be clear; I'm a yeshiva drop out. I left at 17 and started working. That being said, I daven with a minyan every day. I learn chitas and rambam every day. I have a gemara shiur and chassidish shiurim that I attend. I have a weekly chavrusa with my old rosh yeshiva. I've never taken drugs and don't spend my time partying. I have a respectable job, act and dress like a proper business executive, give tzedaka, and I'd say lead an all around proper and model life. Now if someone has a problem, or won't date me because I wore a bloody polo shirt in CH, they can go screw themselves. I have no need for such a person, and want nothing to do with them. Il find someone else to date.

(Mic drop).

Wednesday, August 19, 2015


This past week I attended the wedding of a close family friend in NY. One of the reasons I hate visiting NY is too many people have too many ideas. Walking down Kingston in Crown Heights, I bumped into too many old acquaintances, almost all of whom had shidduch suggestions. Then a weird thing happened. I guess something suddenly clicked. I had a long conversation with someone for whom I have a lot of respect, and the conclusion was that while I'm not actively looking, I'll explore ideas that are presented to me. The gist of the conversation was that coming up with reasons that I'm too involved with my job, want another million in the bank, etc etc dont hold much water. People like me will always give everything 110%. That wont change. And Im a driven person, so I will always push to build my portfolio. As he put it, if I say next year is the magic year, once I get there, Il delay it again.

So..... I think I'm at peace with the concept. Its weird, but I think im ok with it. So yeah.

Monday, July 27, 2015

Visiting North Carolina

I just spent a week in North Carolina for a conference. It was a pretty interesting week. Kosher food there is in short supply. For breakfast I had cereal with soy milk. Lunch was soy meat, baby carrots and nectarines, and dinner was pita bread (I brought some. No pas yisroel out there...), gherkins and tuna. Every day for a week. The one bright thing with edibles (or should I say drinkables) is that they have AWESOME local breweries out there. I no kidding probably went through some 4 bottles a night. All local stuff, a ton of great IPAs, and impressively almost all on the CRC's kosher beer list!!

Aside for that, there really isn't much to do out there. I went to a Charlotte Knights minor league baseball game. Gorgeous stadium and  stunning skyline. And, some 40 different beers on tap... I also made it to the NASCAR hall of fame. Did you know NASCAR was started because of moonshine?!?!?! It blew my mind. Apparently the moonshine makers wanted to sell the stuff, but had to be able to outrun the cops. They would modify their cars to make them go quicker. It then became a competition as to who had the fastest car, and NASCAR was born!! One thing I didnt see while I was there was a confederate war memorial. I was really hoping I would...

Anyhow.. cool place. great beer, but nothing to do, and waaaay too humid. Visit in the spring.

Sunday, July 12, 2015

Our System is Screwed Up

When I hear a recently engaged 22 year old girl saying how "she had to settle because she was getting old" I wanna just punch someone. What in heavens name is wrong with the system? In the "normal" world a 22 year old is usually just a kid who has no solid life plans. Only in the messed up "frum" community is a 22 year old an "old maid". Disgusting is the only clean word I can think of using to describe it...

Sunday, July 5, 2015

Ambushed - Update

So, I was almost right. The girl wasnt there, but her father was... I was nice and polite, but made sure to mention a good few times that I'm currently not interested in dating. We'll see what happens...

Friday, July 3, 2015


Wheels spinning,
Just beginning,
skidding & slipping.

Swerve to a side,
Then to the next,
Falling this way & that
Trying to do it best.

Hit the guard rail,
Pierces the car.
Engine block blows,
Thrown good and far.

Crawling through the mud,
Clothes torn, hair burned,
Running through the woods
Not sure where to turn.

Eating some berries,
Not enough to thrive,
Then running again,
Just to stay alive.

Tuesday, June 30, 2015


I think I'm in for an ambush. The person I mentioned two posts ago who tried setting me up invited me for a meal on shabbos. I go to his house all the time, so I accepted. Then he texted me to tell me "there may be another guest". He's never done that in the past. I'm very suspicious that he'll have the girl he wanted to set me up with come over as well... I guess I'll see..